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So you are looking into ways and techniques to enable you to gain confidence and increase self-esteem. Well have a guess what? You have come to the right place as in this article I will be providing free tips and advice about this very subject, I hope you enjoy the read.

I spent the first twenty-two years of my life having to cope with a stuttering problem. To say that this had a negative affect on my life would be a massive under-statement. I was a person that often settled for second best and who often found himself in a rather depressed mood. I was less than impressed with the hand of cards that I had been dealt and was full of self pity. I believed, in my negative way, that I would struggle at the dating game, I would struggle to forge a successful career and that I would therefore have a rather unhappy future. What was the point? Where was the hope? Why should I even bother to get dressed in the mornings? These were questions that I asked myself on a regular basis. I became in a form of rut and could see no way out.

It was not until my early twenties that I was to emerge out of this negativity. No longer was I going to accept second best, no longer was I going to be a depressive, no longer was I going to fear social situations and no longer was I going to be a loner.

What did I do to gain this new found optimism? Well alcohol of all things is the answer to this question. Ever since I had become a young adult, aged 16 or 17, I had been drinking rather too much alcohol. When intoxicated I could speak as fluently as the next man, I was happy, I was fearless, I was confident and I was care-free. Now do not worry the solution to your confidence and self-esteem issues is not to become drunk every night but what had this experience with alcohol taught me? Well quite simply it showed me that I was able to speak fluently and that I could be happy.

I just had to live life when sober as I did when I was drink. For example I had to learn to be far more positive, far more care-free and far more stress-free. I am a decent human being, I am kind and I am honest.

I have also now realised that I have actually been dealt a very good hand of cards, I am one of life’s lucky ones. I am sure looking to the future!

I hope that my new found confidence will enable me to be able to help more people to learn how to play the guitar, this is something that is very important to me as it is a great instrument to play. I have now even started to offer training for foster carers.

 

It pays to be a Confident Salesperson, and you are worth every single penny! Over 100,000 Americans become new millionaires every year…

The vast majority of these fortunes (just below 85%) are made by someone selling a product or service that their business offers.

In fact, America owes its growth to the efforts of these salesmen and saleswomen. This country is one of the few places in the world where a good salesperson is admired and respected – at least by his or her company, if not by the public at large.

The Confident Salesperson knows his company needs a constant flow of new customers to ensure it’s success. Otherwise, the business is doomed to be a disappointment or to be among the majority of businesses – those that do little better than staying in the black and covering their business expenses.

In the presence of a prospective customer, the Confident Salesperson takes on the aura of a professional. As is the case with any true professional, he understands that he deserves to be paid well for the benefits he provides to others.

This is the bottom line; to succeed in life, business, or any service you need to be able to sell yourself, your product, and your business effectively. If you do these things consistently well, you will be richly rewarded for your skill and your efforts.

Who’s In Charge Here?

Too many salespeople never come close to ever reaching their full potential. Many of them rise quickly to a comfort level, achieve their goal for the year, and then suddenly come to a complete standstill.

It doesn’t matter if they reach their goal as early as May, they just can’t seem to do any better than they did the year before. They go on mental cruise control.

They repeat this pattern year after year, and thus never climb out of their comfortable rut. They make mediocrity their personal standard.

Why do almost all salespeople fail to live up to their full potential both in life and business? It is because they have failed to accept the fact that they must take full personal responsibility for themselves if they wish to improve.

Conquering the Three Great Fears.

Before the Confident Salesperson can set off in pursuit of her quest for excellence, she must overcome the 3 great fears that hold back mere ordinary salespeople. They are Fear of Responsibility, Fear of Money and Fear of Failure.

Until she has mastered them, she is destined to remain forever in the ranks of mediocrity. Once she has conquered them all three of them, she is free to live her life whatever way she chooses.

Lets look at the 3 great fears and put them behind us forever! This week, we’ll discuss the Fear of Money. Over the next couple of weeks, we’ll discuss the Fear of Failure and the Fear of Responsibility.

Fear Of Money.

Believe it or not, many salespeople are afraid to ask for money. I was giving a seminar in South Carolina last year when I realized that the salespeople I was dealing with were victims of this dreaded affliction.

I devised a simple little exercise where they paired off, and each of them said to the other, “That will be just ,000 please.” I had a hard time trying to decide if the results of this exercise were appalling or side-splitting!

The first few times we did it, three of the salesmen actually couldn’t even say the words. We practiced for half an hour, going up and down in various increments until they could say “$10,000″ just a easily as “Ten bucks.”

By employing this exercise, and then explaining the reasons for their problem, we were able to conquer this long held fear.

Why are some salespeople afraid to ask for money? It could be because they themselves never had enough money to buy the product that they are now selling.

When this is what is happening, the fact that they are promoting and selling a product or service they themselves could not afford leads them to believe at least subconsciously that no other people can afford the product or service either.

Frank’s Karate School Story.

Frank, a very close friend of mine, ran a successful martial arts school in Southern California and obtained a lot of marketing information from marketing books. He was located in a middle-to-lower income part of town, but he still had over 170 students, each of whom paid to a month for group tuition.

In addition to this, at least 50 of these clients managed to find an extra per month to pay for private lessons.

One day Frank called me out of the blue to invite me to his upcoming wedding. After congratulating him and chatting for a while, I asked him where he was going on his honeymoon.

At this point Frank grew hushed and confided in me that he didn’t have enough money for the honeymoon. I asked why he didn’t just upgrade one of his students to the Black Belt course that usually sold for around $2,500.

(This would allow the student to take karate lessons for some three to four years with no additional fees, thus saving a good deal of money.)

At the same time, Frank would have ,500 in cash to enjoy while he was on his honeymoon.

He said that he had tried this approach, but people in his area simply could not afford the ,500 fee for the course. I told him I could help him if he would dedicate an hour of his time to me.

The next day, the first thing I noticed as I walked across the parking lot and entered his school was a Mercedes coupe. In it sat a young boy wearing a karate uniform. Then I noticed that one of the parents waiting in the lobby was wearing a gold Rolex watch.

When class ended a few minutes later, Frank and I sat down in his office and I pointed out that his poor student’s parents could afford a Mercedes and a Rolex. He assured me these two people were exceptions to the general rule, and that most of his students were indeed from lower income families.

I decided to let it go for a while and began to ask him some questions. First, I asked if he really believed that his martial arts lessons could help someone improve their life and health. He responded passionately that they could.

Next, I asked why 1 or 2 of the 50 or so students who paid him a month for private lessons could not afford to pay ,500 and never have to pay for a lesson again. He replied that it was just too expensive. I then asked if he thought it was too expensive.

He thought briefly and then said that he could not have afforded that much money when he was paying for karate lessons.

I had discovered problem numero uno; Frank was assuming by projection that his martial arts students shared his same financial problems. Because Frank could not come up with 00 in cash, he automatically ascribed the same difficulty to them.

This, of course, was a false assumption!

Then I asked how much he thought his time was worth. He replied that he charged $25 per half hour for a private lesson, and that he believed he was worth every penny. Then I questioned Frank on how long it took a private student to reach black belt level.

To this question frank replied with, “About four years.” I pointed out that $100 a month for four years came to almost $5,000, and if he sold a student a prepaid black belt program he would save that student almost $2,500 over the course of study.

This savings meant that if the student stayed with the program all the way to the black belt rank (only 1 in 50 does so) he would be paying about per private lesson, rather than the he was currently paying.

When I asked Frank if he thought that was a good deal, he replied that he thought it was a great deal! Maybe too cheap!

I reminded Frank that, because only one in five completed the program, he stood a good chance of making considerably more than $10 per lesson. His mentality changed within almost an instant as he got excited about the improved prospect. Problem number two was solved.

Frank had been focusing on the cost of the program instead of the actual savings and benefits to his students would receive. As soon as he realized and could understand his oversight, he saw the whole topic from a complete different point of view.

Now that Frank was more focused on a selling a new program that saved his students a considerable figure, instead of worrying about the overall cost of this new program, he began to approach his martial arts students with new zeal and promptly sold the cash program to several students before his big wedding day arrived.

This story is repeated a million times a week across the country by countless sales-persons selling cars, shoes, paper, information and other products and services. Salespeople too often place a mental barrier on themselves, and in doing so, thwart their own efforts to obtain the success they deserve.

In my work with the PGA and numerous golf course management firms I have found that despite the fact golf professionals are working with some of the most affluent individuals in the country, many of them are desperately afraid of asking for money.

In this case, it’s not because they don’t make decent money themselves but because they don’t want to be thought of as salesperson. What they don’t seem to appreciate is that 90% of the people they deal with are businessmen or former businessmen. They won’t be offended by being asked for money. They’re waiting to see if and how you‘re going to ask for it!

According to the National Golf Foundation, 86 percent of the golfers in this country would spend more money on green fees, play more often, drink more beverages in the clubhouse, eat more food from the restaurant, and buy more products from the pro shop if ONLY they played better!

The same report also points out in detail, that of the golfers that they had surveyed, just 13% of them actually took a golf lesson from a golf professional in the earlier year!

If that’s not a market waiting to happen I do not know what is, but you have to ask for the sale in order to get it!

Defeating Your Fear of Money. Overcome The Fear.

It’s OK to make money selling!

The more people you help by providing your service or product, the more income you deserve to make. You will never become a better golfer by just thinking about taking a golf lesson from a professional. You have to actually take one!

Whether or not you can afford to buy your product or service doesn’t mean that others can’t and won’t. Whether or not you think it’s expensive does not matter at all. Put your personal thoughts and prejudices behind you.

Let your customers decide whether or not they will spend their money, but make sure you give them the opportunity.

My friend used to tickle me and told me that I can no longer be as beautiful as when I never had the habit of drinking soft drinks or what we call the carbonated drinks. Before, I said it is alright but not anymore now I think. That is the reason why I opt to look for some exercising equipments, and that destiny led me to a particular shop where lots of equipment were being displayed. This chair-like exercising equipment made my attention get caught up. I then asked the one assigned there.

It is just so easy to use, right? You can very well use it. I then bought one for me afterwards. Would you like to know how did it help me? Nothing else but the ab rocket. Now, I can say that my life now is a mixture of love, happiness, enjoy and living my life to the fullest. And that is due to my ab fitness equipment , with the inclusion of the one mentioned in the foregoing a while ago.

While I go to the gym everyday, I always see to it that there is one abdominal machine and a small exercise ball to workout with because these are important factors for me. These fitness objects are really great because they help me to perform my stomach flattening exercises in a comfortable manner. I am happy because it gave me some peace of mind, and a lesson also for someone who hurt me in the past. It is his fault of hurting me so bad.

When I got home, I somehow told myself that I will share it to someone else for me to be of good example to my fellow friends. And it started at home, when my mom really got so fat because of her office work, which calls her to sit down always. After some weeks, her body became beautiful. We are now happy together with my mom. LOL!

 

Up until a few years ago many of my friends and family used to call me “a stress head”. Why you may well be thinking? I basically worried and stressed about most aspects of life.

So what was the cause of all of this stress? I suppose if I am truthful the majority of my problems at the time came about due to the fact that I had a stutter. This speech impediment had developed when I was at the age of four. As you may well imagine it is something that destroyed my overall confidence levels. Therapy for stuttering, at the time, was less than impressive which did not exactly help the situation.

Having a lack of confidence affected nearly all areas of my life; not just my speech. I would worry about what other people thought of me, I would stress about my height and my weight. I had a need or want, for some unknown reason, for people to like me. I have to say that this now seems so bizarre however at the time I was being plagued by an army of demons that had taken over my brain.

The turning point came as I entered into my twenties; it was time for a change and a big one at that. I could no longer live in this way – there surely had to be more to life than this.

There was only one person who was going to get me out of the mess that I was in and that person was me.

I started to work very hard at learning how to increase self-esteem for example. I also studied the ways in which the best fluent talkers were speaking in comparison to me in an attempt to eradicate the speech impediment.

Progress was far from quick however after around a year of battling against my demons I did manage to overcome the stutter and I did manage to discover ways to stop me stressing – it is all about attitude and the way we approach life – think positive and believe in yourself!

One of the most difficult things to get over in life is the worry about what other people think of us. We can worry about the careers or partners we choose and what others will think about this. It is basic human nature to care about how we are thought of to an extent, however, when this goes to an extreme it can have a really big impact upon your life. However these feelings can be removed by following our how to stop caring what others think guidance:

• When you get a feeling that somebody is judging you, think rationally as it is very unlikely that they are. Others have many other things to worry about other than you. Keep telling yourself this and you will begin to feel #better.

• Avoid people who will lower self esteem and concentrate your time on the people who will say good things to you and reassure you in order to boost confidence. If people you trust give you compliments and positive energy then your chances are you that you will believe them over negative people and start to believe in your own value.

• Pursue a hobby or interest in order to meet people with similar likes to you. Because of the similarity it is most unlikely that they will think negatively about you. In order to meet like-minded people and improve skills at the same time joining a class is a good option.

• Possibly the best tip in our how to stop caring what others think advice is making sure you are able to find your own strengths and weaknesses and beginning to accept this without worrying what others think in order to realise what you want out of life.

• subliminal CDs can greatly help to increase self esteem. The power of subliminals can be used to increase your willpower and strength of mind. This will thicken your skin and help you to get past what people think of you.

Do you lack confidence? Are you looking for advice and tips that could enable you to increase your self-esteem? If you have answered one or both of these questions with a “yes” then this article may well be worth a read.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years I was a person who had a real lack of self-belief. In truth I did not particularly like myself. I was quite envious of what my friends and family had. They seemingly had it so easy where as for me life was a constant struggle. What I needed was to some how gain confidence.

I had a stutter you see which did make life unbearable at times. I did eventually, at the age of twenty-two, manage to achieve fluency which of course was a great relief. I had however already spent the previous eighteen years struggling to cope with a stuttering or what is also known as stammering problem that virtually destroyed my entire confidence.

What I did learn and what was eventually a catalyst to enabling me to eradicate the speech impediment was that I needed to start appreciating what I had in life. I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and I needed to work hard at improving the areas of my life that I was not happy with – such as my speech.

I also had to stop stressing, panicking and worrying so much. I had to completely change the way I approached life; out went the negative and in came the positive.

These were some massive changes that I was attempting to make to the way that I lived my life and I will not try and tell you that it was easy. Ultimately however all of the effort did pay off and I was able to achieve fluency and a real confidence.

I hope that you will also be able to gain in confidence; I will be happy to help in any way that I can.

As a successful businessmen I am now involved in various projects including one which offers online guitar lessons for beginners. This is a great deal fun as the lessons are very beneficial and the feedback thus far has been very positive.

 

Do you lack confidence? Would you like to find out ways in which you could increase your self-esteem and self-confidence? If you have answered either or both of these questions in the positive then this article may well be of interest to you.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years I was a person who had a real lack of self-belief. In truth I did not particularly like myself. I was extremely jealous and envious of other people and what they seemingly had in comparison to me. They seemingly had it so easy where as for me life was a constant struggle. What I needed was to some how gain confidence.

I had a stutter you see which did make life unbearable at times. At the age of 22 I did manage to eradicate the stutter and it sure was worth the wait. I had however already spent the previous eighteen years struggling to cope with a stuttering or what is also known as stammering problem that virtually destroyed my entire confidence.

What I did learn and what was eventually a catalyst to enabling me to eradicate the speech impediment was that I needed to start appreciating what I had in life. I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and I needed to work hard at improving the areas of my life that I was not happy with – such as my speech.

I also had to stop stressing, panicking and worrying so much. My whole approach to life had to change; I was now going to start to think in a positive manner.

These were some massive changes that I was attempting to make to the way that I lived my life and I will not try and tell you that it was easy. In the end however the hard work and determination did pay off; I am now able to talk fluently with a new found confidence.

I hope that you will also be able to gain in confidence; I will be happy to help in any way that I can.

As a successful businessmen I am now involved in various projects including one which offers online guitar lessons for beginners. This is a great deal fun as the lessons are very beneficial and the feedback thus far has been very positive.

 

Up until a few years ago many of my friends and family used to call me “a stress head”. Why you may well be thinking? Well quite simply because I seemingly stressed about anything and everything.

So what was the cause of all of this stress? I suppose if I am truthful the majority of my problems at the time came about due to the fact that I had a stutter. This speech impediment had developed when I was at the age of four. As you may well imagine it is something that destroyed my overall confidence levels. Therapy for stuttering, at the time, was less than impressive which did not exactly help the situation.

My low self-esteem had a bad affect on many areas of my life, not just my speech. I would worry about what other people thought of me, I would stress about my height and my weight. I was so desperate, for whatever reason, for people to like me. I have to say that this now seems so bizarre however at the time I was being plagued by an army of demons that had taken over my brain.

As I entered into my twenties I decided that enough was enough. I could no longer live in this way – there surely had to be more to life than this.

There was only one person who was going to get me out of the mess that I was in and that person was me.

I started to work very hard at learning how to increase self-esteem for example. I also studied the ways in which the best fluent talkers were speaking in comparison to me in an attempt to eradicate the speech impediment.

Progress was far from quick however after around a year of battling against my demons I did manage to overcome the stutter and I did manage to discover ways to stop me stressing – it is all about attitude and the way we approach life – think positive and believe in yourself!

One of the hardest things to get over in life is the thought that others may think negatively about us. We can worry about the careers or partners we choose and what others will think about this. It is basic human nature to care about how we are thought of to an extent, however, when this goes to an extreme it can have a really negative impact on you and your potential. However these feelings can be removed by following our how to stop caring what other people think guidance:

• When you get a feeling that somebody is judging you, think rationally as it is very unlikely that they are. Others have many other things to worry about other than you. Keep telling yourself this and you will begin to feel #better.

• Avoid those who will seek to put your self esteem down in order to boost their own. Concentrate on people who are positive and lift your mood, who reassure you and build your confidence. If people you trust give you compliments and positive energy then your chances are you that you will believe them over negative people and start to believe in your own value.

• Pursue a hobby or interest in order to meet people with similar likes to you. Due to this similarity it is not very likely that they will think badly towards. In order to meet like-minded people and improve skills at the same time joining a class is a good option.

• The ultimate advice is to look for your own strengths and weaknesses andlearn to accept them without worrying what others think - it sounds simple but if you can do this you will then be able to see what you really want from your life, you will have a greater sense of freedom and be less tied to your worries in general.

• subliminal messages will really help to increase self esteem. The power of subliminals can be used to increase your willpower and strength of mind. This will thicken your skin and help you to get past what people think of you.

In order to feel good naked a lot of confidence is needed. However, many people can provide the confidence needed for this by following some simple steps. It can be so easy to alter your perceptions about yourself and find the internal guarantee and self belief that allows you to feel great naked:

• By being happy with your skin you can change your whole image of yourself into a positive one because if your skin looks good, your natural beauty shows. Exfoliation and moistursing will remove any imperfections or blemishes from your skin, and then hydrate and soften the skin for a smoother softer appearance. For a little something different try applying a little olive oil on days you decide not to wear makeup, as this gives skin a natural looking glow instantaneously.

• Don’t criticise your figure when standing under harsh artificial light. By using candle light you get a soft glow to your silhouette and your blemishes aren’t as visable.

• If you exercise regularly your doby will become more toned and you will have a slimmer figure. Exercise can also help in the removal of cellulite so skin looks noticeably smoother with fewer imperfections.

• If you feel you will never get the confidence to feel good naked then just pretend you are confident – fake it till you make it. Study others so as to find what looks good or not this way you can possibly learn from them without having to find out for yourself. By doing this you will gain confidence from others and you will more clearly see the good and bad points about them.

• By recognising the real you, you are able to accept yourself as who you will always be. Get to know your own body and be familiar with who you are, both as a person and on the outside. If you do this you will soon gain a massive amount of self confidence in your naked body.

These tips were compiled by Real Subliminal. For further info see the guide to get you to feel good naked.